The Lord whelps those who whelp themselves.
I.e. we are responsible for raising ourselves, yada yada - we can't pick our parents, whatever God(s) exist, or what they put outside us. But we can choose how to take it and walk through it. And we can give ourselves what we need to prosper, and put books in our own hands that are worth reading.
And then we can still be like surly teenagers to us as self-parenting overlords. Its a full cycle, isn't it?